The Weekend Expectation

On a normal weekend, how do you spend your time?

Excluding travel weekends, a solid weekend for me usually consists of a few of my favorite things...

shopping trips to Target/Home Goods/Trader Joe's
a walk outside (dreaming of walking outside when it is too cold to do so)
church
cooking a real meal (because I can't seem to muster up enough energy to do that during the work week)
playing some sort of game (preferably Settlers :))

The complexity enters into this conversation because it's not exactly what I do on the weekend that matters as much as it is how I do it. I can leave a weekend more exhausted than the week because I did not get enough introvert time or I ran too many errands/did too many chores/did too much work. I can leave a weekend feeling lonely because I spent the whole time running errands by myself or had little to no real conversations with people I love.

I am still learning the right balance for me. I am still learning how much time I should spend with Grant and the exact tipping point where we miiiiiight just want to spent some time apart (A little healthy alone time does every marriage some good. ;))

Grant and I are still navigating our different expectations for weekend activities (also, note the only thing I can think about when I say "activities" is a scene from Stepbrothers. anyone? anyone?)

While he has, what can probably be deemed, a more "adult" expectation for a weekend- one that includes completing fix-it projects, reviewing the budget, filing documents, blah, blah blah- I can't seem to want to work on those tasks for more than two hours. I know it's an unrealistic expectation to avoid chores on the weekend... But a girl can dream.

 The "how you do things" piece enters in here.... Head down, get it done approach v music blaring, take longer than necessary breaks for chips and salsa approach. So now we are talking about navigating the how we do chores and the amount of chores. Because now it's not just what works for me or him, but what works for us.   

I love hearing how different couple's handle, what I will call, the weekend expectation. My parent's for example, the cutest little married things in the world, spend a lot of time apart and are totally content. I have other family friends who literally do EVERYTHING together (I'm not even sure they go to the bathroom separately....ok, I probably can be sure about that. but still.)

It is about finding what works for you. Plus, a little trial by error never hurt anyone. Let me know what works for you.